Where are you girls?

You didn't talk for a month over brunch?
True.... no Sunday brunch since I have left Singapore.
I miss it! Very much!

Eeeeny meeny miny moe (is this how you spell it???!)

Currently on season 3 of s.a.t.c. and watching Charlotte, Miranda, Samantha and Carrie still trying to find the right man.

But you know, if you watch the episodes one after another, you'll realize that each of them pass up really really eligible (and cute) guys because of one small thing/problem/quirk or other. And I found myself thinking, what's up with that? Why are they so choosy?

Then it dawned on me:

If you can't be picky about the person you're going to spend the rest of your life with, what can you be picky about?

Carpe Diem...

He says "I should have done/said/told u/bought u/taken u to/shown u... this long time ago...". Sounds familiar, huh!?

My response is "In fact, you haven't, period."

Guys, don't waste your time talking anymore. Move your arse!

Motto of the day: Seize the day!

What was that breakup rule?

Re-watching s.a.t.c for the umpteenth time got me the answer to a question I had awhile back.

In satc:S2:Episode1 (yes there's a reason why this resembles biblical citations) Charlotte says,

"... it takes half the time you were in a relationship to get over its breakup."

E.g. If total duration of relationship = 10 years
Then the time it takes to recover from the breakup = 10 years/ 2
= 5 years
:
If this were true of marriages, by the time you're ready to re-marry, well let's just say you'd have miss the ball game.

Addicted to Love

A friend once told me, one classic symptom of addiction to someone is redialing his number for 37 times in one hour if no one answers (resulted "37 missed calls" on the guy's mobile display).

Last night, I googled 'Love Addiction' and found a list of signs and characteristics of the addicts, here are some to share: -

• Mistake intensity for intimacy (drama driven relationships)
• Hidden Pain
• Seek to avoid rejection and abandonment at any cost
• Afraid to trust anyone in a relationship
• Depressed
• Highly manipulative and controlling of others
• Perceive attraction, attachment, and sex as basic human needs, on a par with food and water
• Feelings that a relationship makes one whole, or more of a man or woman
• Intense need to control self, others, circumstances
• Presence of other addictive or compulsive problems (Water's note: e.g. cigarette addiction)
• Using others, sex & relationships to alter mood or relieve emotional pain
• Continual questioning of values and lifestyle
• Confusion of sexual attraction with love ("Love at first sight")
• Tendency to leave one relationship for another. (Inability to be without a relationship.)
• Attempts to replace lost relationships with a new one immediately

Keep the result of the self diagnosis to yourself. If needed, I can recommend you the book "How to break your addiction to a person" which is quite handy... and interesting. Don't ask me why was I reading such a book.

(sourced from http://www.recovery-man.com/loveaddict.htm)

Where have all the pimps and mamasans gone?

In singles' talk...

The girls complain there are no good men around.

The guys complain there are no good girls around.

Hello - Why aren't these two groups meeting?

What is flirtation?

According to Milan Kundera's observations in The Unbearable Lightness of Being,

"One might say that it is behavior leading another to believe that sexual intimacy is possible, while preventing that possibility from becoming a certainty. In other words, flirting is a promise of sexual intercourse without guarantee.”

He also notes,

“Making love with a woman and sleeping with a woman are two separate passions, not merely different but opposite. Love does not make itself felt in the desire for copulation (a desire that extends to an infinite number of women) but in the desire for shared sleep (a desire limited to one woman).”

SO i guess flirting with sex is an oxymoronic act, and spooning after sex is a milestone in relationships - as Carrie felt in s.a.t.c.