Eeeeny meeny miny moe (is this how you spell it???!)

Currently on season 3 of s.a.t.c. and watching Charlotte, Miranda, Samantha and Carrie still trying to find the right man.

But you know, if you watch the episodes one after another, you'll realize that each of them pass up really really eligible (and cute) guys because of one small thing/problem/quirk or other. And I found myself thinking, what's up with that? Why are they so choosy?

Then it dawned on me:

If you can't be picky about the person you're going to spend the rest of your life with, what can you be picky about?

Carpe Diem...

He says "I should have done/said/told u/bought u/taken u to/shown u... this long time ago...". Sounds familiar, huh!?

My response is "In fact, you haven't, period."

Guys, don't waste your time talking anymore. Move your arse!

Motto of the day: Seize the day!

What was that breakup rule?

Re-watching s.a.t.c for the umpteenth time got me the answer to a question I had awhile back.

In satc:S2:Episode1 (yes there's a reason why this resembles biblical citations) Charlotte says,

"... it takes half the time you were in a relationship to get over its breakup."

E.g. If total duration of relationship = 10 years
Then the time it takes to recover from the breakup = 10 years/ 2
= 5 years
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If this were true of marriages, by the time you're ready to re-marry, well let's just say you'd have miss the ball game.

Addicted to Love

A friend once told me, one classic symptom of addiction to someone is redialing his number for 37 times in one hour if no one answers (resulted "37 missed calls" on the guy's mobile display).

Last night, I googled 'Love Addiction' and found a list of signs and characteristics of the addicts, here are some to share: -

• Mistake intensity for intimacy (drama driven relationships)
• Hidden Pain
• Seek to avoid rejection and abandonment at any cost
• Afraid to trust anyone in a relationship
• Depressed
• Highly manipulative and controlling of others
• Perceive attraction, attachment, and sex as basic human needs, on a par with food and water
• Feelings that a relationship makes one whole, or more of a man or woman
• Intense need to control self, others, circumstances
• Presence of other addictive or compulsive problems (Water's note: e.g. cigarette addiction)
• Using others, sex & relationships to alter mood or relieve emotional pain
• Continual questioning of values and lifestyle
• Confusion of sexual attraction with love ("Love at first sight")
• Tendency to leave one relationship for another. (Inability to be without a relationship.)
• Attempts to replace lost relationships with a new one immediately

Keep the result of the self diagnosis to yourself. If needed, I can recommend you the book "How to break your addiction to a person" which is quite handy... and interesting. Don't ask me why was I reading such a book.

(sourced from http://www.recovery-man.com/loveaddict.htm)

Where have all the pimps and mamasans gone?

In singles' talk...

The girls complain there are no good men around.

The guys complain there are no good girls around.

Hello - Why aren't these two groups meeting?

What is flirtation?

According to Milan Kundera's observations in The Unbearable Lightness of Being,

"One might say that it is behavior leading another to believe that sexual intimacy is possible, while preventing that possibility from becoming a certainty. In other words, flirting is a promise of sexual intercourse without guarantee.”

He also notes,

“Making love with a woman and sleeping with a woman are two separate passions, not merely different but opposite. Love does not make itself felt in the desire for copulation (a desire that extends to an infinite number of women) but in the desire for shared sleep (a desire limited to one woman).”

SO i guess flirting with sex is an oxymoronic act, and spooning after sex is a milestone in relationships - as Carrie felt in s.a.t.c.

The rule that has no law

Apparently I am what they call, a fag-hag.

Yes, girls. According to vERy reliable sources, the moment you have one (JUST one) gay friend you are "a fag-hag".

After much debate over this inexplicable rule, which upon my questioning only brought on more squeals of pure appletini-wrought conundrum at Morton's, there is no negotiating the number of gay pals you can have before you become a fag-hag.

In a I-tell-it-like-I-see-it-sista fashion, I can only spread the word around like an irresponsible journalist, with no way to verify the claim that all you need is ONE.

It's a cruel place this and there are no second chances, no redemption.

Welcome to the world of fag-hags and Lhasa Apso's (a breed i'm told is favoured by divas and gays:)

Extract from a conversation between a guy and girl

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Girl: I have all of Tony Parsons books
Boy says: i lent out all mine...
Girl says: reallie? i hope they come back to ya
Boy says: nah, i'll just poach yours
Boy says: to dunno who also
Girl says: har? u dunno who...so much for respecting your books
Boy says: i'll respect some books... not Parsons'
Girl says: you know, if women are like books and if that's anything to go by
Boy says: wah lao Parsons, not persons

Boy says: Parsons books are like women you flirt with in bars...
Boy says: good fun while it lasts... but u don't really think about it when the night is over
Boy says: once in a while you find "wife-material" books... like... err... the zen and the motorcycle maintenence book
Boy says: incidentally i have 2 copies now

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And they tell us men don't objectify women.

Right.

Playing the field

When it comes to fidelity, there are apparently four types of guys out there:

Guys

• who are single and date
• who are attached and don't date (other women)
• who are attached and still date (other women)
• who are married and still f*** around

Actually, this probably could apply to women too. But the likelihood of finding them (the women) are significantly lower.

Spoke to some guys who justify the need to play around as part of "getting it out of their system" so that when they're ready to settle down they can really settle down because they've "done it all" before and therefore will not have any regrets or hangups. (If this were true, #4 up there wouldn't exist.)

Then there are those "open relationships" where both parties agree to date other people while still being attached. This one, we really don't get.

Can someone remind these people that it ain't called "dating exclusively" for nothing?

Leaving on the Jet Plane

~ "So kiss me and smile for me
Tell me that you'll wait for me
Hold me like you'll never let me go

'Cause I'm leaving on a jet plane
I don't know when I'll be back again
Oh, babe, I hate to go" ~

Please forgive my singing out of tune. I felt like singing before I started my next blog.

I have officially said goodbye to Singapore. Lying comfortably on my seat, I started my movie-on-demand "Hitch" (which I missed when it was on earlier) and found it very entertaining. Hitch advised guys on courting the gals they like. It began with basic gestures like when a girl talks please listen and look into her eyes. Yes, that's what we are looking for. Is this too much to ask?

I better stop poisoning myself with any movie that conveys the idea of "perfect boyfriend". Otherwise, I will easily die alone. Let's watch documentary...